Kamea and I having fun.
I’m thinking about the strain we parents put on ourselves when we prioritize our children’s well-being so much that we neglect ourselves.
We forsake our own health.
That doesn’t feel right to me. Isn’t that the wrong way to live?
I’m reminded of how airplane flights start with the following, “Put your mask on first so that you can better assist others.” Those seem like smart words by which to live.
However, the idea of putting children first is natural to many of us. But here’s the thing… if we neglect ourselves we can set ourselves up for illness in the future, when our kids are adults.
We harm our own health now because we “don’t have time” to care for ourselves properly, only to turn around and put the awful stress and strain on our children when they are adults and need to take care of us.
I know friends who are caring for their unwell elderly parents. It’s hard on my friends. Very hard.
It makes me wonder… if those ill parents had better managed their health (I know some didn’t know any better, but we do!), then would they be experiencing old age with more strength, and not depending on their kids to take care of them so much? Would they be less of a stress on my friends who care for them? I think so.
This inspires me to care for myself and make it a priority. I take time to eat well, get quality rest, meditate, and exercise. It means making adjustments to my schedule so I get the needed “me time.” This will create a healthier future-me so I don’t put that stress on Kamea to care for me (when she’s an adult and I’m an old lady). I plan to live over 100 years after all. That said, when I reach 110, all bets are off.
Plus, and this is a big plus… kids learn by example. How can I expect my daughter prioritize her own health and well being, if I’m not doing it myself?
Starting her morning right. #BulletproofCoffee
I started enjoying coffee when I was 7 years old. I remember the first time fondly as it represented my entrance into maturity. ;) I was at my Nana’s and, well, I simply asked her if I could have some coffee. Being 100% Italian, she said, “Of course!” (She also taught me how to shave my hairy Italian legs around the same age. Gotta love Nana(s).)
I was hooked from there. The warm deliciousness that marked my initiation into something cool. The next chapter of my life. A Coffee Drinker.
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Saturday, April 25th, 2015
Painting our Pinterest inspired art project.
More often than not I tune out the moms gushing about Pinterest inspiring their kiddos birthday parties, home decorations, or art projects. It’s just too much for me. I mean, who has time for that? Surfing Pinterest, getting supplies, and then making all of those projects? Good grief.
Well, there’s a first time for everything I guess.
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Tuesday, February 17th, 2015
Kamea having fun outside of True Food Kitchen. A great memory for us.
I started a practice at the end of 2013 that I’m so glad I started. It goes on the list of the best things I’ve done.
I started a journal for (and about) my daughter, Kamea. It’s a journal where I simply write a few notes about the day we had, or things that were special, or just a little something about my feelings for her. Capturing the moment for her (and me) as best I can.
It’s not only a beautiful thing to read myself, thinking back on our time together as I read the entries, but it’s going to be something special for her. When she’s older I will put it all in a book or something and give it to her as a gift. I keep it a secret for now. Perhaps I’ll tell her about it sooner than later, but for now, it’s my own special gift to us.
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Saturday, February 14th, 2015
Greg & Kristen. Valentine’s Day 2015. Madly in love.
Right now I’m in Starbucks, on a date, with my husband, Greg. It’s Valentine’s Day and we carved out some “alone time” while Kamea spends the afternoon with her Nana.
It’s weird though, we’re at Starbucks of all places. We’re in Sun City West area, a retirement community because that’s where mom lives, so there’s not a lot of hot-n-happening places from which to choose. We considered a movie, but strangely, it wasn’t attractive. We couldn’t help but find ourselves with laptops, Justins’ peanut butter cups, green tea, and coffee at Starbucks. (I was secretly hoping they’d have their new coconut milk option but it doesn’t roll out until Tuesday).
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Wednesday, February 11th, 2015
Kamea playing with her kiddo card holder.
My daughter is about 4.5 years old and she’s getting to the age where we play cards. Yay! I have so many memories of playing cards growing up with my mom and my nana. Imagine my excitement when Kamea asked me to play again and again after we played Crazy 8s… Frozen style of course.
My mom bought this box of Frozen games (I think at Target, but it’s on Amazon now too), and it’s soooooooooo good. It comes with a whole slew of Frozen games that are actually really good. I even like them.
Anyway… in the box of games is the game Crazy 8s and we love playing it. Trouble was that Kamea always played it open handed because she struggled holding all of the cards in her cute little hands.
We were at Nana’s one day and the two of them were playing the Frozen Crazy 8s and Nana had a solution! OMG it’s perfect! (My sister-in-law’s mom came up with the idea – brilliant. Thanks, Chris!)
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Sunday, February 8th, 2015
(Thanksgiving 2014) Family. Making memories for all of us, including my daughter.
I’m suddenly feeling like I’m in a chapter of my life that I’m not ready for and I’m unsettled. It feels weird to write about this but perhaps by writing about it I can gain some insight and peace.
Here’s the thing: I’m getting older which means my parents are getting older, which means I’ll be in a time of my life where my parents won’t be here.
I don’t think I would’ve have paid so much attention to this except that in the past few months, my good friend’s dad’s health started deteriorating to the point where he might pass sooner than later. Then, my step-dad became ill, and long story short, I don’t know if he’ll ever be back the way he was before falling ill, and I don’t know how long I have with him. Even if it’s 5 years or 10 years, he’s changed. Then, my old best childhood friend’s dad suddenly died last month. Just gone. My new good friend’s dad is having difficulties with his heart.
It seems like it’s all around me, and this is the course of life. I get it, but I don’t like it. I know, duh, cuz who would like that? But, seriously, no one told me about this. No one prepared me for it. It’s like I am supposed to expect it because parents get older as you get older, and one day they pass. But, I feel unprepared.
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Thursday, February 5th, 2015
Drambuie – my favorite alcohol. Warmth. Gently Sweet. Packs a punch. Mmmmmm.
Drambuie is a unique blend of aged scotch whiskey, spices, and heather honey, to quote directly from their bottle.
What do I say?
Drambuie is decidedly wonderful and I looooooove it.
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Wednesday, October 8th, 2014
Kristen Suzanne in books
, food journal
, grass fed beef
, hemp seeds
, Kristen Suzanne
, MAC knife
, pastured eggs
, raw eggs
A mini-van almost packed to the gills, ready to roll.
We are a family who loves to travel, and our most recent epic road trip took us to Michigan. But, travel can wreak havoc on anyone’s best attempts to eat healthy. Not always. Check out my post below where I show how we traveled across the country while (almost exclusively) staying on our Real Food Foodie Lifestyle (i.e., we ate really healthy in spite of being on the road). It meant extra work, which isn’t always the thing you want to do after a day of being in the car, but I’m simply not willing to eat crap food which is most often what’s served in restaurants.
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Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Every New Year’s eve my husband and I sit down and write out our lists of goals and intentions for the coming year. I usually divide up the ideas by life segments such as career, family, relationships, leisure, finance, travel, etc.
For 2014, I did something different. I did something I’d never done before. I decided that 2014 was the year I would embrace only one goal for the whole year: Meditation.
My 3yo meditating. #Longevity #Peace
Why only one goal? For a long time, I’d been wanting to make meditation a big part of my life, a regular staple in my daily routine. But for some reason, I wasn’t doing it consistently. I always said to myself, “Oh, I need to meditate…. I’ll do it tomorrow.” And, as the 2013 year was coming to an end, I decided it was of vital importance to make it a regular part of my life (and for my family, too). So important that it was going to be the only goal I focused on for the year.
Why I meditate. There was a reason that I suddenly came to place meditation with such importance. That’s because I’m now a firm believer that meditation deserves top billing.
As most of you know, over the past couple of years, I’ve dramatically changed the way I eat. I went from being a militant vegan, with animal rights fueling my purpose, to eating a Real Food diet of grass-fed omnivore foods, when my family’s health was failing with vegan foods. (See here and here and here for specifics.) The frustrating thing about using diet for optimal health and longevity is that you can find diametrically opposed camps — with each claiming to have science on their side — about what is right and what is not right when it comes to the food you put in your mouth.
Amid the firestorm of controversy on so many facets of what comprises “optimal” health, the fascinating thing I realized is that there’s at least one thing that pretty much everybody agrees on: Meditation is healthy and important for health and longevity. You might have respected doctors vehemently disagree on whether kale or bone broth is the best superfood, or which position is the best way to sleep, or how to treat a cold… but I have never heard any expert in recent years say you shouldn’t meditate as a daily practice for optimal health. After years of peer-reviewed interventional studies, meditation has become not only non-controversial, but they just keep discovering new amazing benefits. The only people who don’t say meditation is good for your health are people who don’t know the first thing about the topic.
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