The Blog of Kristen Helmstetter (Brisa Starr)
We voted this week all the way from Italy and it was so easy-peasy. We did oversea absentee ballots.
The whole process was essentially electronic so no mail service was used. They emailed. We printed. We filled it out. We scanned. We emailed back. That’s it!
If you follow my blog, you know that the word, “millionaire” — as in, Happy Sexy Millionaire — has a special meaning to me. It’s partly about money, of course, but don’t get caught up on that… it means much more.
It doesn’t necessarily mean having a net worth in excess of one million dollars. It means something much broader. It means having the means to live the life of your dreams, whatever those dreams may be.
It could mean a million dollars, but not necessarily. It could mean much more… five million, ten million… or maybe just $50K. (But then, Happy Sexy Thousandaire doesn’t sound as good, eh?). The specific number is up to you, if you have a number in mind (for net worth, annual income, monthly income, whatever).
I do have my own number, for goal-setting purposes, but more importantly, for me, “millionaire” is like a code word. It’s shorthand for a whole cluster of associated ideas and emotions: abundance, generosity, success, lifestyle, travel, and so on. And one word in particular…
Freedom.
“Millionaire” is my label for the mental and emotional state I evoke when I want to feel empowered and free to do whatever I want to do in life. To go wherever I want to go, to be the sparkling, golden woman that I want to be… to attempt bold things, to dream big, to be a badass, and to generally live an epic life. It is this millionaire mindset that allowed me to, among other things, travel the world for a year. And then settle down in a picturesque, medieval hilltop village in Umbria, Italy — the kind of place you thought only exists in movies.
None of this actually required a million dollars… it only required that I think big, picture my millionaire lifestyle, and then plan accordingly. Step by step, it all just fell into place. Because, in my mind, it was not only possible — it was easy.
I have so much I want to share… from our daily life living in Italy, now that the mandatory quarantine is done, to how I manifested our amazing apartment, to all of the new novels I’m writing and are scheduled to publish.
Today, I share a single picture. It, for me, represents an aspect of quintessential Italy: cobblestone, Vespa scooter, view of the rolling Umbrian hills, historic buildings. The air and awe of Italy.
Ciao Ciao Ciao!
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Once upon a time, I was a vegan. I died. The End.
Just kidding.
Yes, I was a vegan for ten years until it almost killed my family.
I’m being dramatic. Maybe.
In defense of my veganistic decisions, I thought I was doing the right thing (don’t we always?), and I learned a lot. Although I wish I hadn’t been vegan for ten years of my life, maybe two would’ve been fine, I’ve moved on.
It’s also why my story about eating a carnivore diet, in my book — The Carnivore Diet Handbook — is not preachy. Everyone does their own thing, me included. I learned my lesson from my vegan days. #neversaynever
But today, I’m bringing up my days as a vegan because, back in those wheatgrass-drinking days, I read a book that had a gem of an idea that I’ve carried with me, over a decade later. This strange and peculiar book — Survival in the 21st Century — was written by a truly enjoyable fella, Viktoras Kulvinskas.
Today, with my elk-heart-eating, carnivorous ways, I am far from a vegan. But something I read in that book has stuck with me for over 10 years. I remember reading it to Greg while we drove to Fort Bragg, CA, all hyped up on raw chocolate, to attend the raw vegan cooking school, Living Light.
When I finished the book, I cut out a little chart from it and taped it to my journal.
And over the years, as I went from journal to journal, I would tape it and re-tape into all of my journals. Until I internalized it, I guess, because I don’t have it anymore.
And while I won’t reconstruct the table for you (you can get the book if you want to see it), I’ll share the general idea.
It’s taking the words “I hope” and never using them again.
It’s replacing those words with the words “I prefer,” every time.
I prefer. I prefer. I prefer. I prefer.
I started doing this. I was baffled at the difference in my reaction to whatever it was that I was claiming to have previously hoped for.
You see, when you say I prefer, there is less attachment to it, yet more agency and personal power. It’s more uplifting in a weird way.
I was teaching this idea to my 10-year-old, and I asked her what she thought about it. She said, “Yeah, it sounds more educated.”
So there.
Try it for everything you want positive to happen in your life AND everything that you don’t want that could be negative.
When driving my car, instead of “I hope I make this light,” say “I prefer to make this light.”
Ahh, doesn’t make you feel like pink cotton candy?
There’s this feeling of untouchableness that accompanies the words, I prefer.
I hope to lose weight? No. Try… I prefer to lose weight. Nice.
I hope I don’t get sick? Nope. Try… I prefer not to get sick.
There’s just less stress behind the words, I prefer, than the words I hope.
So, those are my thoughts today. I prefer they’re as useful to you as they are to me. :O)
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I remember the day I told Greg about my daily Coffee Self-Talk routine I was doing every morning. We were in our tiny Italian kitchen in Rovigo, Italy, where we were pursuing my dual Italian citizenship.
He loved it and said, “You need to write a book about that!”
This routine of mine is one of the vitally important parts of transforming my life in Happy Sexy Millionaire magic. (Read about that here!)
And it was time I shared it with everyone.
Coffee Self-Talk is a powerful, life-changing routine that takes only 5 minutes a day.
Coffee Self-Talk transforms your life by boosting your self-esteem, filling you with happiness, and helping you attract the magical life you dream of living. And, very importantly, it creates feelings of wholeness and worthiness. All this, with your next cup of coffee.
What if you could wake up every morning feeling more incredible than ever before… in 5 minutes? Living the most epic life! Your mind mastered! Your life on a path to shimmering happiness!
Are you tired of living a dull, uninspired, (or heck, crappy) life?
Do you want to live a life of sparkling adventure and kicking butt, while reaching all of your goals?
What if you were excited to bounce out of bed, living with verve and gusto because you had purpose, unrelenting resilience, and targeted direction? No matter the current circumstances!
What if you were able to attain goals you never thought possible? Think about it… is there something you thought you could never do but always secretly wanted to?
I share how I used the techniques in this book to find the man of my dreams, travel the world, move to one of the most beautiful hilltop towns in Italy, and become a romance author!
And what if you had all this possibility from a simple program that took only 5 minutes a day to do? You can and you will!
Coffee Self-Talk is the super easy, 5-minute program to rewire your brain and help you attain any goals, whether they’re for glittering happiness, shining self-esteem, superior health, money, tranquil peace of mind, or unstoppable grit.
Includes Coffee Self-Talk programs to help with:
Or maybe you want to stop a bad habit, like over-eating, or to start good one, like meditation. From specific goals to peace and happiness, the sky is the limit. All with your next delicious cup of coffee. You can do it!
Best yet? You’ll love Coffee Self-Talk because it’s not some boring-ass “to-do.” It’s fun and effective!
So if you want to wake up grinning from ear to ear, happier than you’ve ever been, and living an incredible life, then Coffee Self-Talk is for you.
If you have things you want to do with your life, but you don’t know where to begin, then Coffee Self-Talk is the answer.
And if you have dreams you thought were too big, or you didn’t know how to make them come true, then Coffee Self-Talk will help you.
Now is the time to live your best, most magical life ever. No matter how old you are, or what your circumstances, Coffee Self-Talk will work for you!
It’s time to wake up and take control of your mind and your life.
Join me!!!