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The Word “Should” Just Makes You Feel Like Shit — Eliminate It From Your Vocabulary

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This year, I tossed the word “should” from my vocabulary. It felt really good to do it.

It was Anita Moorjani who made me see the word “should” differently. When she advised not using the word, I thought, “Huh… OK, I’ll give it a try.”

I wasn’t entirely convinced.

However, the first time I caught myself saying it, and I remembered to hit the mental “delete” key. Hm. I felt quite different. In that instant, I felt better.

I’ve since tossed “should” from my vocabulary and never looked back. It seemed so simple when Anita talked about it. Funny, too, because it never dawned on me how damaging the word “should” could be, until I stopped saying it.

Think about it.

Think of all the times you use the word “should” and then think about how you feel when you use it. It’s one of those sneaky words that fucks up your self-talk, but no one really realizes this because it’s so common.

I should work out more.
I should eat less sugar.
I should get to bed earlier.
I should call my mom more often.
I should save more money.
I should work more.
I should stop eating so much chocolate.
I should, I should, I should.

All of those statements above are NOT empowering.

They’re definitely not helping create elevated emotions. Remember, to manifest our dreams, we want to feel elevated as often as possible. Cutting out the word “should” is low-hanging fruit when pursuing your Happy Sexy Millionaire life.

(With these examples, notice that I’m not talking about harmless instances of the word, like “hey honey, we should stop by the store on the way home.” But since I’ve eliminated the word from my vocabulary, as a matter of habit, now I’d say something like “hey honey, let’s stop by the store on the way home.”)

When I gave myself permission to never use the word “should” again, my life shifted noticeably in some very specific instances. My mood lightened. There were certain things adding weight to my shoulders, and I was able to lighten the load when I cut the word from my vocabulary.

The example of “I should work out today” just left me feeling lousy when I said it. Getting rid of it one day made me feel better because the guilt was gone. Guilt is not an elevated emotion.

It was subtle, yet effective.

The Micro Steps — Like Espresso

While I talk a lot about the big macro steps to becoming a Happy Sexy Millionaire — worthwhile things that take a bit of time in your life, etc., it’s these little changes — the micro steps — like removing the word “should” from your vocabulary that fill in the cracks. Not only are micro steps easy to implement, but they’re powerful. Like a cup of espresso — tiny, but they pack a punch!

So I stopped using the word “should,” and every time I caught myself about to use it, I chose another word, or I replaced it with “could” (more on that below). In each of those moments, I felt like a sly little sassy fox, thinking, “Oh, hahaha, I don’t have to go down that road. Should isn’t a word I use anymore.” Nope. I danced the other way, feeling good.

You’ll know what I mean when you stop using the shitty word “should” for yourself.

Why Shushing Your Should(s) Works

It wasn’t until later that I was able to articulate why the “should” word sucks.

It was learning from two of the greatest experts in self-talk in the world: my father-in-law, THE FATHER of self-talk, Dr. Shad Helmstetter. The other person was THE MOTHER of self-talk, Louise Hay.

Anita Moorjani talked me into ditching that word. But it was both Shad and Louise who clarified for me just why it’s so powerful when you do let it go.

When you let it go, you’ll feel relief. And that’s exactly how I felt. Relief. Who would’ve thought a tiny word could make such a difference? Do you see the power of words with this simple example?

Dr. Shad’s take on the beguiling word “should”…

I should. On the surface it looks as though it should work for us. But instead, it works against us. In this level of self-talk, we are stating to ourselves our recognition of our need to change. This is characterized by words such as I need to or I should. The problem is that it recognizes a problem, but creates no solution. What we are really saying is ‘I should get more organized but I’m not.’

Dr. Shad Helmstetter

Louise says we want to replace “should” with “could.”

I believe that should is one of the most damaging words in our language. Every time we use should, we are, in effect, saying wrong. Either we are wrong or we were wrong or we are going to be wrong. I don’t think we need more wrongs in our life. We need to have more freedom of choice. I would like to take the word should and remove it from the vocabulary forever. I’d replace it with the word could. Could gives us choice and we are never wrong. What is there on your should list that could be dropped with a sense of relief?

Makes us a prisoner of us and makes us wrong or someone else wrong. Change your should to could. Could gives us choice and power. “I always have a choice.” We always have a choice.

Louise Hay

Your task… drop the should’s. Leave it at that if you want and just feel the freedom of letting the word go and see how much more enjoyable your life is. Later, consider replacing it with the word “could” if you’re looking for motivation to do certain things.

I could work out.
I could meditate.
I could eat better.

There is power in the word “could.” It creates a sense of responsibility with the choice. Guilt doesn’t accompany it. For newbies though, I find that just ditching “should” is great place to start and bring more happiness into your life. On occasion, you can throw in a “could” to spark motivation, but it’s not necessary every time.

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Becoming a Happy Sexy Millionaire – Step 3: Off-the-Couch Daily Living (Immersion)

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Your Legendary Life Is Here for the Taking! It’s Yours!

It’s time to get practical. How do I maintain my bliss-as-f*ck feeling all day long?

I’ve got tools.

“Yeah, Kristen, it’s easy feeling good when I’m doing Self-Talk Mirror Magic — it’s just me and the mirror. I feel great meditating because it’s just me and my mind. What about the rest of time, like living life and dealing with people??? How do I maintain my high-vibe all day long?”

I get it. We want tools and tips for keeping the bliss-buzzzzzzzzz going all day — when we’re “off the couch.” That’s a tricky part!

And, THAT is where people struggle the most.

It’s all fine and dandy when you’re meditating, right? That’s the easy part. So long as you can get your ass to the couch and meditate, it’s awesome. But, once you’re off the couch, how do you keep that bliss-state going?

If you get up from your meditation in an elevated state and you can maintain that modified state of mind and body your entire day, you better get ready because something unusual is going to happen in your world.


Dr. Joe Dispenza

It can be easy to fall into old habits and behaviors when going through your normal life, reading emails, dealing with coworkers or being a parent, for example. There are many opportunities to “forget” that you’re meant to be shiny and happy.

It happens to all of us. But with the tips and tricks outlined below, you’ll stay in your amaze-balls state way more often than not. Remember that each time you behave and feel in a way that’s in alignment with your epic future life, you’re setting up your brain to fire and wire so that you actually think, act, and feel like the person you’re destined to be.

The life you know is yours for the taking.

Off-the-Couch Immersion

Today, I’m talking about the importance of “off-the-couch” immersion so you can have your version of a Happy Sexy Millionaire life, too.

My Typical Amazing All-Day-Happy

Almost every day, I explode with joy that either makes me jump with exuberance, skip like a kid, or maybe even get tearful because I’m overwhelmed with bliss and gratitude. It’s an incredible place to live from, and I want everyone to tap into this.

When you follow the steps as I do (Step 1 self-love, Step 2 Law of Attraction meditation, and “off-the-couch” immersion you’ll learn about today), your life will change. Big time.

You act differently, your aspirations change, and you see life with bright, new eyes. You find new possibilities. And possibilities find you.

But, how many of us slip into distraction once we get up from our meditation? A lot of us. So there is one thing you need to do to maintain your bliss when you’re off the couch.

You want immersion.

Immersion like a strawberry immersed in chocolate, and that delicious chocolate coating covers it from then on.

Your goal is to have regular actions in your life to prevent you from going unconscious.

Your All-Day Happiness Drip

By creating small habits, like the ones I’ll be sharing today, you’ll experience a larger scope of happiness all day. You’ll have a regular drip of elevated emotions and mental coherence coursing through you on a regular basis.

These things become habits that might only take a few minutes to tap into throughout the day, but the lasting effects can be hours. That’s what we’re after.

When you have good habits like these in place, you won’t waste time with distractions. So often, it isn’t that people are unmotivated, but that they’re just distracted. By immersing yourself with these various techniques, you dramatically reduce the opportunity for distraction to creep in and steal your day away from you.

When you meditate in the morning, setting up your day for success, you want to maintain that elevated joy for the rest of the day. You’ll find yourself so in love with your life that things like complaining or worrying become uncomfortable, because it’s not good juice for your new life, and it feels weird… even foreign to you.

The key is to lodge these concepts in your brain, stuck in your head like an earworm — you know, a song that plays over and over in your mind. The goal is to have these ideas, concepts, and actions always humming in the background of your mind, ready to tap into whenever you might get distressed, distracted, or even just bored. We want the involuntary reaction to be so immediate so that we have one of these tips or ideas always ready and available.

So, What Does This Really Mean?

It means that when you create these habits and you change your brain, this new amazing life becomes your default mode of thinking and feeling. It’s your new comfort zone — and that’s an incredible place to be.

Then, when something happens that is, say, negative, the negative thing hits you in a weird, unfamiliar or even goofy way. In other words, you immediately notice it, because it’s not your new norm. You don’t passively allow sh*t into your life. Stuff that drags other people down (or might have dragged down the previous version of you) will just slide off. It no longer affects you or prevents you from manifesting your dreams!

When this happens, because you’re paying attention, you mobilize to make improvements — in real time. This constant presence and ability to make improvements in real time not only makes you stronger mentally, but it also strengthens your elevated energetic vibration. This helps you manifest your dreams super fast!

It also creates an environment of continuous healing, by maintaining a boosted, strong immune system. It makes you feel happy — consistently. And, who doesn’t want a constant drip of happiness?

The bottom line is that crazy-cool things start to happen when you give positive, uplifting energy to your dreams. So start now! Give yourself permission to live an epic life. It’s time to step into who you are meant to be, because you’re destined for greatness.

How Do We Do This?

The secret you’ll discover here is how to keep the feeling going all day long. That takes a little bit of work, and it’s fun stuff, but know that manifesting is easy! It’s all about your mindset and setting yourself up for success.

You could skip this immersion step, and just stick with the self-love and meditations, because it’s true that over time, like Dr. Joe says, our brains and bodies actually change from our meditations, as we fire and wire our brains for change.

But we can make it happen much faster on the accelerated program. I’m in the fast lane to manifesting, and you can join me.

The fast lane = immersion. Come fly with me!

Immersion — The Key to Manifesting Quickly & Happily

Everyone knows that the best way to learn a foreign language is with immersion. Which means being surrounded by it all day. For most people, this means moving to the country where they’re trying to learn the language. Another example is when kids are in a school where they only speak Spanish, for example, in order to learn Spanish. At such schools, speaking the native language (say, English) is strictly forbidden, even during recess.

No wonder then, the students learn Spanish fast! Why? Because they’re focused on it 100%.

I totally understand this now, because it’s how I’m learning Italian. By living in Italy, I pick up the language faster because it’s everywhere I turn. I’m immersed in it. In contrast, when I leave Italy, my language acquisition quickly drops off, despite my best efforts to keep studying.

It’s the same with living this amazing new life… it takes immersing yourself in positivity-focused actions. Otherwise, you get distracted and the whole process slows. We don’t want that.

I’m really fired up to be a Happy Sexy Millionaire, and I want it as fast as I can have it. That means immersing myself in cool little habits, all through the day, to set myself up for success and manifestation.

And, besides, it feeeeeels great! Doing these things keep me focused and feeling incredible because I’m constantly tapping into my epic life.

I have a handful of suggestions for you below. You don’t have to do them all — just try a couple and see which ones resonate. My mom always said to me growing up, “Kristen, if you throw enough shit at the wall, something will stick.” Same idea here. Try some and see how they work. Try more and see if you have a better experience. This stuff works and you want to find the things you like the most so that it’s easier to keep the habit going.

Off-the-Couch Immersion Happiness Drips

Happiness Drip #1. Self-Talk Mirror Magic

If you’ve read this sequence of Happy Sexy Millionaire posts from the beginning, you know the importance of self-love in making your dreams come true. Well, Self-Talk Mirror Magic is a no-brainer happiness drip technique — and easy one, too — and a reinforcement throughout the day of what we’re already doing every morning in the mirror.

Using your reflection every chance you get is a simple way to feel really good and elevate your emotions multiple times per day. It’s simple: Every time you see your reflection in your phone, the TV, a window you pass by, or going to the bathroom, just say to yourself “I love you!” You’ll get a drip of happiness every time. (If you’ve not tried this yet, it might feel weird at first. For details, read the full post on this technique.)

Here’s a tip to ensure you don’t forget to do this. Use a dry-erase marker and write yourself a note on your mirror. Write anything like…

I love you.
I am worthy.
You look great today.
We are having a wonderful day.

Then, put a little sticky note near your rear-view mirror in your car. Put another on your TV. It won’t take long before this becomes a habit and this habit jolts you with happiness and feel good feelings regularly throughout the day.

Happiness Drip #2. Coffee Self-Talk

Coffee Self-Talk is a program I designed for myself that I do every morning while drinking my cup of coffee. In my book, Coffee Self-Talk (to be published March, 2020), I detail every little amazing thing about it, but for our happiness drip purposes here today, here’s the gist of it.

My new book, coming March 2020

Coffee Self-Talk is an empowering program that takes only five minutes per day. It helps you transform your life by boosting your self-esteem (and generating happiness!). And, very importantly, it creates feelings of wholeness and worthiness…. essential for attracting success.

I do Coffee Self-Talk every day, virtually without fail, because it inspires me and directs my actions in the direction of my Happy Sexy Millionaire manifestations.

All this, with your next cup of coffee.

Instructions:
Make yourself a cup of coffee every day (or tea or water, whatever is your thing), and while you sit down to drink it, spend the time savoring the coffee while filling your brain with powerful affirmations (words you say to yourself). For the best results, speak the words out loud. These words immediately create feelings of confidence, well-being, and all around awesomeness.

These thoughts and feelings prime your brain and body for major success that very day and the days that follow. You’ll find that you start making better choices, feel better emotionally, and love your life more. High self-esteem, here we come!

Why Coffee? Consistency — It’s not like you’re ever going to forget your morning coffee. Ninety percent of success in life is just sticking with something long enough for it to work. Also, coffee allows you to link your affirmations with the multiple sensory modalities that get triggered while drinking your cup of warm, delicious coffee. These, in turn, make your brain re-wire itself faster. And finally, coffee is effing delicious.

As I mentioned, I wrote a whole book about this technique that teaches how to do it and provides a bunch of examples of what to say. Here’s the short version: Write down 15 affirmations that spark joy for you about your life and your dreams. Feel free to include quotes from books or lyrics from songs that inspire you, too.

Then, sit down with your coffee every morning and read through your affirmations, feeling the joy from them, with each sip of coffee. In the time it takes you to drink your coffee, you’ll feel fantastic and you’ll have set up your day for super-star success.

Every morning of mine includes three things: I wake up and 1) do my Self-Talk Mirror Magic, then I 2) have my coffee and do my Coffee Self-Talk, and then I follow it all up with 3) my first meditation of the day. When pressed, I can have all three of these done in an hour.

Is it worth it? Absolutely!… It’s an hour that makes every hour after that better and I’m much more effective in everything I do. It’s totally worth it. It’s helping me manifest my dreams faster and it also just makes me so friggin’ happy.

I wouldn’t trade that in for anything.

Happiness Drip #3. Reading Books and Blogs

Choosing what information you consume is very important because these inputs program your brain — specifically, your beliefs and attitudes. In aggregate, these have a profound effect on you. So choose what you read carefully. Reading the right books and blogs is a great way to get inspired!

Schedule 15 minutes once a day to read something that uplifts you, teaches you, or inspires you. You can do this at a break during work (instead of getting on Facebook) or you can do it for 15 minutes before going to bed.

Some of my favorite books are by Anita Moorjani, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Esther and Jerry Hicks, Dr. Wayne Dyer, and there are tons of others. I’m always adding more goodness to my brain and body by reading from inspired authors. It’s a great fat drip of happiness because you’ll be reading about others who successfully live(d) the life, and you’ll discover ideas for your own life.

Happiness Drip #4. Watching Testimonials, Interviews, Podcasts

There’s a rule that we become like the five people we spend the most time with. So who are you hanging around with the most? For some of us, that isn’t supporting our dreams and Happy Sexy Millionaire manifesting. Know what I mean?? But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Traveling the world for the past couple of years, we moved around a lot and so we didn’t have a core community of friends. That didn’t mean I couldn’t surround myself with great like-minded people though.

I chose to surround myself with inspiring people online and regularly watched testimonials of people doing what I’m doing (Dr. Joe’s Youtube channel has tons). I also watch Youtube channels with smart people kicking ass in life like Tom Bilyeu, Jim Kwik, Dr. Joe Dispenza, etc.

Watching their interviews pumps me up! They became my community.

I chose to surround myself with inspiring people online and regularly watched testimonials of people doing what I’m doing (Dr. Joe’s Youtube channel has tons). I also watch Youtube channels with smart people kicking ass in life like Tom Bilyeu, Jim Kwik, Dr. Joe Dispenza, etc. Watching their interviews pumps me up. They became my community.

This keeps me uplifted and strong. Again, it becomes proof of others doing amazing things and it means that I can do it, too!

Happiness Drip #5. Instagram Happiness Inspiration

I’m not usually a fan of social media because it’s often a toxic sludge pit. And, used incorrectly, it can be a distraction, used to delve into other people’s lives instead of living my own. It becomes a source of comparison-itis.

However, I now have a fantastic way to use social media (Twitter and Instagram) that drips happiness into my life every time I use the apps this way.

Here’s what I did. I created separate accounts that I think of as my Happy Sexy Millionaire Manifesting accounts. In these Instagram and Twitter accounts, I follow only people that fill my cup. THAT’S IT! It’s not a place for following my friends or coworkers… or even family! It’s not where I update others on my life.

Rather, it’s where I tap into happiness with each tweet or Instagram picture I see on the feed. It’s potent, especially with Instagram, where the continuous scroll is filled with positivity images and quotes. It’s like drinking from a cup of happiness.

Using Instagram or Twitter in this way every day is a great way to remind yourself of the epic life you’re living, elevate your emotions, and get inspired by all of the other like-minded people out there.

Happiness Drip #6. Community

This one is tricky until you meet others on the same path. A lot of people don’t get it — this kind of inspirational stuff — but you can get them interested by being a shining example.

It’s even better if you can find some people to share your dreams with and to support them too, then it becomes a teaching and learning opportunity. Doing this continues the happiness drip and keeps the elevated emotions alive, front and center. One way to find others like you is looking on Meetup.com for groups about manifesting or “law of attraction” and join them. How fun!

For me, I have a couple of good girlfriends who love all of this stuff too, and of course, my husband and daughter.

Happiness Drip #7. Brain Manifesting Mantras

This is another thing I invented for myself, and it really deserves its own blog post, but it is a tool I use daily so I want to include it here.

My Brain Manifesting Mantras technique is powerful, and I know I keep saying each of these drips is powerful, but each of them is powerful. Doing just one thing will make a difference, do them all and — whoah — look out because life is going to change fast!

Brain Manifesting Mantras is a form of self-talk, and it simply means I’m creating a blueprint for my brain and body to follow. Directions that tell brain what to do (or make) based on what I’m saying.

You see, when you say things to yourself (in your mind or out loud), your brain is listening! Always listening like a “fly on the wall.” Every word and thought.

And, guess what?

It totally wants to please you! Whatever you say (or think), it actually takes as a command. In other words, what you say and think creates a blueprint for your brain to follow — like instructions for your body and life. Your brain listens to whatever you say. This is powerful information to know.

Even more interesting is that your brain doesn’t care if it’s the truth or a lie… your brain doesn’t know the f*cking difference, and it will listen to whatever you say — good or bad, true or false! It will take the orders and start setting your body up for that result. Sometimes these things can take longer to happen, but happen they do.

And so this is where your self-talk is vitally important.

Brain Manifesting Mantras is a specific way that I use my self-talk. It’s a way I say affirmations in a trance-like repetitive fashion. Like a mantra. I’m directing my brain and that baby listens.

I came up with Brain Manifesting Mantras one day when I was working out in the gym, and I was lifting weights. Always looking for opportunities to create good directions for my brain to follow, I thought I’d take advantage of the time while doing reps with weights to affirm my greatness. :)

But. I say these things in a particular way.

I take various short, positive, affirmative sentences, and I combine them in fun ways to make them more punchy and effective.

For example, instead of repeating with each strength training rep “I’m a millionaire. I’m a millionaire. I’m a great person. I’m a great person. I’m worthy. I’m worthy. I’m healthy, I’m healthy.” I take two to three of the ideas and combine them into one punchy one.

Like this… “I’m a great healthy millionaire.”

Cool, huh? (I leave commas out for less mental clutter, but if your inner editor is twitching, feel free to write these as “I’m a great, healthy millionaire” in the examples given here.)

One day, instead of saying “I’m Happy” a bunch of times, followed by “I’m Sexy” a bunch of times, and “I’m a Millionaire” a bunch of times, cuz that’s pretty boring, I said to myself, “I’m a Happy Sexy Millionaire.”

And it was like BAM!

I had a burst of feeling sizzle right through me. A jolt of excitement. I was like, Ooooh, I like this. (And that is how I named the blog you’re reading right now.)

In the beginning of making my Brain Manifesting Mantras (I make many and every day) they almost seemed other-worldly. Like, who is this talking? Sometimes it felt weird and even fake. But I knew that was simply part of the process.

Turns out I was right. I actually started believing what I was saying! What I was thinking! One day I told myself so many times that I was a fantastic prolific writer that I went home from the gym full of confidence and wrote one of my best pieces.

It’s real change and it feels real. I’m convinced it works.

But there’s more to why this works so well.

The very act of taking these different affirmations and combining them ALSO creates an interesting image in your head — a memorable one. You see, our heads like images, and it became something that I not only enjoy saying and hearing, but that I also enjoy seeing in my mind.

When I thought and lip synced “I’m a happy sexy millionaire”while lifting weights, I had a much different picture than just “I’m happy.” The image in my mind came of me smiling, wearing a big sexy hat and sunglasses with my makeup on point, stepping into a limo. Now, that’s a memorable image that evokes more emotion.

Here are more examples…

I’m a confident funny genius.
I’m a funny lovable mom.
I’m a sexy strong creator.
I’m a smart lovable millionaire.
I’m a generous intuitive millionaire.
I’m a generous happy millionaire
I’m a patient funny mom.
I’m a confident millionaire
I’m an intuitive manifester.
I’m an intuitive writer.
I’m a sexy intuitive writer.
I’m a healthy creative genius.
I’m a fit prolific writer. (Isn’t that a more interesting image in your mind than just I’m a prolific writer or I’m fit?)

Notice how these kind of hit your brain a little sideways? I mean, “sexy” and “writer” aren’t words that usually go together. I find that swarming myself with positive words in this free-form way is a kind of mental hack that makes me accept them more readily.

Remember: The three keys are that 1) I’m being repetitive with the words like a mantra, 2) I’m creating a instructions for my brain to follow, and 3) I’m also creating a unique picture for my brain with that blueprint because I’m combining words in unusual ways, which automatically makes it memorable and evokes uplifted and exciting feelings.

That is how my Brain Manifesting Mantras began!

When I exercise at the gym, it’s an opportunity to do this, which feels amazing. And it’s really fun as I combine different positive affirmations.

But I don’t only do it while I’m working out.

I love it so much that I use it anytime I get the chance. For example when I am jogging or walking, I say these things in sync with my steps — repetitive, mantra-like and it makes the whole activity sort of meditative. I also do it while I’m washing the dishes, or laundry, or making coffee, or cooking dinner.

Try it. Come up with three Brain Manifesting Mantras made up of 2 to 3 descriptive words that you want to describe yourself in your new life.

Maybe you’re seeking healing or health, you could try:
I’m an intuitive energetic person.
I’m a vibrant sexy woman/man.
I’m a supple lithe leopard.
I have a lovely strong heart.
My hips are flexible fun and playful.
I’m a dancing bouncing chick/dude!
My health shimmers shines and energizes.
I’m filled with light energy and brightness.
I’m an energetic swirling soul.

Happiness Drip #8. Meditation Background Sound

Here’s another powerful way to keep your focus on manifesting awesomeness when you’re not on the couch. I play Dr. Joe’s meditations in the background while I’m not meditating.

I let them play while I’m getting ready in the morning, writing, doing dishes or laundry, things like that. I don’t listen to every line he says, but I’ll catch one now and then and I’m like, “Whoah” — I was just mindlessly going about my day and that statement I just heard from Dr. Joe brought be back.

It’s in these times that I realize how easy it is for us to get distracted during times we could totally be tapping into manifesting mojo, so our dreams become reality sooner than later.

It’s really cool… I don’t have to pay attention to everything he’s saying — it still seeps into my subconscious like hypnosis, just by having them play in the background.

Happiness Drip #9. Sticky Love Notes

This is a no-brainer, easy, and everyone needs to do this.

Get some sticky notes and colored pens (and stickers, if you want extra credit… the more bling, the better!). Write little notes reminding yourself about the epic life you live. Then, you stick them in different places around the house and car, on your laptop, mirror, refrigerator, etc. I have even been known to hide a note inside one of my shoes, forget about it, and surprise myself later when I find it. It’s like the Manifestation Fairy left me a secret message in my shoe!

Here’s the key though — you’ve gotta change out the notes, or move them around once a week, so you don’t start tuning them out and stop reading them. Therefore, on my calender, every Sunday I have an alert to either make new notes or move them around, or both.

Here are the Sticky Love Notes in my house now.
I am amazing.
Only good lies before me.
I love my closet and the clothes in it.
I bless my laptop with love. It brings me money every day.
Everything is perfect.
I feel fabulous.
I am grateful for my health.
I love my life and life loves me.
I am worthy of everything I want.
You look amaze-balls, darling!

Happiness Drip #10. Bedtime Advantage

Every night, I take advantage of the fact that I’m about to enter into 8 hours of subconsciousness. What you think about before you go to sleep is one of the most important things you can do to change your life.

Every night, I take advantage of the fact that I’m about to enter into 8 hours of subconsciousness. What you think about before you go to sleep is one of the most important things you can do to change your life.

You’re about to spend up to 8 hours with your subconscious… so make it good.


Dr. Wayne Dyer

As your head touches the pillow, you want to prime your subconscious for the night to come. Set it up for success with great thoughts, but not too many, or you’ll be too excited to fall asleep! Choose simply and choose wisely. As you keep it simple, it’s more trance-like while you’re saying it and it rocks your subconscious to sleep.

I often opt for something like “I’m worthy, I’m worthy, I’m worthy” and it goes on repeat for a minute or so, as I drift off to sleep. I just say it slowly. I start by lip syncing it and then slowly transition it to just passing through my mind. Sometimes I change it to “Money loves me. Money loves me. Money loves me.”

Here’s another great one, for boosting health: “I’m whole, I’m whole, I’m whole” or “I’m Healthy, I’m Healthy, I’m Healthy.”

You could choose to work on something like patience or love… “I’m patient, I’m patient, I’m patient” or “I’m love, I’m love, I’m love.”

One of my favorites is also “I love my life. I love my life. I love my life.” Damn — that’s a good one, it makes me feel like all is great in my life not matter what the conditions.

It feels so good falling asleep to words like these.

Happiness Drip #11. Light Journaling

I always keep a journal, but I don’t feel obligated to write in it every day. I do, however, start each new journal I buy with a list of my goals and very specific details for how I want each goal to really look. Writing is magic because it makes connections in the brain that merely thinking (or even typing) don’t seem to make.

For example, in my current goals, I’ve detailed specifically what being a Happy Sexy Millionaire will look like for me, from the way my future home will look to the supplements I’ll take, to the money I’ll put into savings, to the amount I’ll carry with me to hand to people in need on the street, to the technology I’ll have, etc. So, each new journal has this list and I refresh my mind by reading it every few days.

The other purpose of the journal is to have a place where I can write repetitively about things I am doing or the new person I’m becoming. Writing these things over and over, by hand, imprints it stronger into my brain. For example, on one day I might write ten times “I’m in love with my life.” Or “I have the hormones of a 20 year old.”

I also use the journal to jot down quotes, lines from books, and other inspirations and things I want to revisit. Then, all I have to do at any time is to open it up to any random page for a quick pick-me-up-happiness-drip.

My journal is also where I like to write things I’m feeling grateful about in various moments. Again, writing it out by hand takes it to the next level. I don’t write in it every day, but it’s always there, always filled with goodness, waiting to be explored and waiting to have more yummy things added.

Happiness Drip #12. Music

I can’t write a post about tricks to feeling good and raising your vibe without talking about music. I mean — HOLD THE PHONE! — music is soooooooo friggin’ powerful for changing your state. The more you listen to uplifting music, the more often you’ll feel uplifted! Music is so incredible because it gives you energy and puts you in an empowered state where you feel absolutely unlimited.

These are the feelings we want to regularly tap into throughout the day to keep attracting our legendary lives.

Your task is to create a Manifesting Playlist where every song on it immediately puts you into an awesome-feeling state. You know, like the songs that make you want to dance or drop to your knees in gratitude or strike a superhero power-pose! You know the ones!

Happiness Drip #13. My Millionaire Minute

I have a really fun and effective thing called My Millionaire Minute. It’s an alarm on my phone that I use to stop whatever I’m doing, close my eyes, and focus on the thoughts and feelings I’ve associated with becoming my Happy Sexy Millionaire self. It’s so fun and catchy that, when My Millionaire Minute alarm goes off, my whole family does it now, without me ever asking them to!

I’ve set the alarm on my iPhone to go off five times a day, at: 10am, 12pm, 2pm, 4pm and 6 pm. At those times, my phone is programmed to an electronic ambient song called Liquid Flow by Dreaming Cooper. It’s kind of futuristic and instantly resets my brain from whatever I was doing, to being 100% focused on manifestation. After about 20-60 seconds, I stop the music and resume whatever I was doing, except now with a supercharged sense of purpose. It’s amazing.

The alarms are set to repeat every day.

My whole family has anchored this song to uplifted feelings and manifesting our dreams. Every time the alarm goes off we immediately stop what we’re doing (unless driving, etc.), and we are transported in our minds to feeling our future in that very moment. For me, that means I’m instantly feeling my Happy Sexy Millionaire life. I’m experiencing it as if it’s for real, in that moment. I sense shimmeriness and golden light all around me, excited, and confident.

I remember when we were looking at our dream apartment we wanted to rent in Italy (more on that in a future post) and My Millionaire Minute alarm went off. We all looked at each other, had a quick moment of recognition that we were in an apartment I’d manifested, and I quickly turned it off – lol – since the people around us thought my phone was just ringing.

Sometimes, when the alarm goes off, I imagine a gold box being delivered to my front door, decked out with a sparkling pink bow, and filled with a million dollars. It’s not that I necessarily expect it to actually arrive like that (but, fuck, who knows!?), but it’s a picture in my head that symbolizes how easy it is to manifest what I want. The universe delivers. That’s the feeling I seek when manifesting.

You could use My Millionaire Minute for the same reason, millionaire-ness, or you might label it your “healing” minute, or your “self-love” minute, or your “fantastic fitness” minute, etc. Pick something you’re manifesting.

If you seek, say, a life of freedom, then sit down and play a “freedom minute” song repeatedly while you think and feel this delicious freedom feeling — this anchors the song to the intention. Then, later, tap into that anchored mental/emotional state multiple times a day with the the alarm on your phone.

Happiness Drip #14. The Gratitude Game

Gratitude is the tested, tried-and-true way to boost your happiness. Your appreciation of anything in any moment is always a great way to turn a frown upside down. It generates feelings of wholeness and love, and it’s an easy way to change your thoughts to positive in an instant, getting you back on track to attracting your dream life (more on how your thoughts and feelings make your dreams manifest, in a bit).

I can always think about something I’m happy about. For example, in a minor instance, if it’s raining and I have to wait outside in it, I feel gratitude for my umbrella or coat (provided I brought them with me, lol). Or, I simply say, “I have appreciation for rain because it helps the plants and grass to grow.” Making a quick and simple connection of appreciation breaks the chain of negative thoughts and creates a chain of happy thoughts. A key is keeping it simple, because that will resonate and hit your core faster.

Another example: If you find yourself feeling anxious about finances, shift in an instant and think about how grateful you are that your son/daughter/spouse is healthy. Health is a default source of gratitude I tap into regularly because I know that when I’m healthy, everything is good in my world.

This is a big one for me, because everything else could be total shit and I really don’t care, so long as my family is healthy. I know this because, when someone isn’t healthy, I sit there realizing how insignificant everything else in the world is when there isn’t health.

If you do get sick, don’t focus on being sick. Instead, realize that “I am glad I’m not more sick” or “I think I’ll take advantage of this time in bed by watching my favorite shows.” (Pro-tip: comedies and laughter boost health and healing.)

Happiness Drip #15. The Lunch-Time Gratitude Game

One way to get really good at this game is to pick one time during each day where you see how many things you can appreciate. Call it Lunch-Time Gratitude.

Every day at lunch, while you’re eating, you simply look around and see (or think about) how many things you can appreciate. It can be as small as appreciation for the food you’re eating, or for your toothbrush cleaning your teeth, or the chair you’re sitting in while eating lunch. Or the sun shining outside, or your comfortable bed, or your coffee that gives you energy and antioxidants. Or, it can be as big as your home, your family, your job, or your awesome perseverance in taking control of your life and living it by your design.

It’s a game and your goal is to come up with as many things you have appreciation for.

The result of this exercise isn’t only that you’ll have an extra boost of happiness, but you’ll fire and wire appreciation into your brain, and this is how it becomes your default emotional state. This is what creates more greatness in your life.

Happiness Drip #16. Affirmations for All Things Including Coffee

You can imagine that, as I do all of these things, my day is filled with nothing but positivity, and you’d be right! It’s why I’m so madly in love with my life. I feel happy because that’s what this stuff is designed to do and I feel confident that I’m getting every advantage for maximizing my success and health.

The last tip I’ll share, for now, is having affirmations for all things. Remember, everything you say or think is an affirmation whether it’s good or bad, so let’s make them all good. Let’s train our brains to constantly think in terms of happiness and good things and we’ll have more of that in our life.

It’s the law.

This means that, for pretty much everything you do, you should have an affirmation for it. If I’m not saying my Brain Manifesting Mantras, then I’m thinking an affirmation for damn near every action I take.

I’m a go-big-or-go-home kind of person. I’m not wasting time, so I love it all.

For example, when I’m making a cup of coffee, I say to myself, “This coffee is so good for me. I’m so lucky to have it.” This blesses the coffee and makes it even better for my body.

When I’m walking to the mailbox I’m thinking, “I’m so happy I have legs for walking. This is such a blessed day!” (See? Positive thoughts and feelings all day long.)

When I’m waiting for my laptop to boot up, I’m thinking or lip syncing, “My computer is amazing and I’m so happy to have it. It brings me money and joy.” And on and on. In this way, it’s never an annoyance to me that my computer has to boot up. I enjoy the moment, and it reminds me to stay focused on what matters. Even if something truly annoying happens, like my computer crashes, I still take the time to take a breath and think, “Well, I now have another minute or two while my computer gets situated to feel and think my affirmations. Thank you, computer, for giving me this extra time.”

It works. All of this stuff.

Conclusion

All of these tools can be used to hack into your happiness bliss anytime of the day. I’ll be honest, I have even more, but these 16 Happiness Drips are enough to get you started.

I’m trying it all and that’s the journey I’m sharing with you on my blog.

I want to be madly in love with my life and I want success and happiness and health. I want to be a millionaire and things are already shifting in my life toward that goal! My book sales are increasing for example. And just today I had an unexpected affiliate commission come through!

I feel more happiness and sexiness every day, and I know it’s because of all of the attention I put on it.

In the beginning, I didn’t remember to do all these things that I’m listing here. It required making them my habit in order to become my M.O. In fact, in order to do this, I had to remind myself to do these things!

So I had notes in my calendar and on my phone and all around the house reminding myself to: Brain Manifesting Mantra, Baby! or Hey, It’s Self-Love Time! And the more I did it, the easier it got. Now it’s my default. This explains why I am madly in love with life, because just about every waking moment I’m taking the opportunity to increase my energy and uplift my emotions in spite of whatever is going on throughout my busy day.

And if there are days with dips? I jump to one of these Happiness Drips (or 16 of them!) to get me back on my incredible horse.

You can do it, too!

The more you do this, the more aligned you are with your purpose and dream… this makes you stronger and unshakable. I’m here to tell ya, this helps you manifest faster.

All that said, having moments where you just plum don’t think about anything at all is good for us, too. It’s nice to be blissed out and just feeling amazing — no thinking necessary. Part of the reason for these exercises is that they ensure there’s no negativity coming at you because there’s no damn room in your mind to receive it! After a while, your default becomes either one of peace or excitement — both of which make for your epic life.

And that, my friends, is the three-legged stool — the three steps to becoming a Happy Sexy Millionaire.

Step one is self-love, which creates worthiness. When you feel worthy, you attract what you want.

Step two is the Law of Attraction meditations, which are used to help you focus and design the exact life you’d like to manifest. The meditations help you change your brain into a manifesting powerhouse. Plus, health benefits.

Step three is the techniques outlined in this blog post, to maintain that amazing elevated state of bliss when you’re not on the couch meditating. This is how you carry it with you throughout the day, everywhere you go.

This might seem like a lot to take in. If so, don’t worry about it — there’s no need to get overwhelmed. Do it in baby steps, if you like.

I recommend that you skim through the Happiness Drips listed above and just pick one or two to start with. Implement them in your life and see how they feel. Most likely, you’ll love them and keep it u. At that point, try adding another drop or two. And so on. I use them all, and it’s how I’m taking control of my life.

See ya next time! And remember to subscribe to my email newsletter to stay connected with me on a more personal level. I love hearing from readers and it’s great swapping stories of how we’re working on our epic lives.

Recap of Happy Sexy Millionaire posts:

Post 1 I’ve decided to become a millionaire

Post 2 How I started my life change to become a happy sexy millionaire

Post 3 Why write about becoming a happy sexy millionaire?

Post 4 Science behind the magic of becoming a happy sexy millionaire

Post 5 Becoming a happy sexy millionaire – Step 1 – loving yourself

Post 6 Becoming a happy sexy millionaire – Step 2 – law of attraction meditations

Post 7 Becoming a happy sexy millionaire – Step 3 – off-the-couch daily living immersion

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Better Sleep for Better Shimmer and Miracles

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I recently traveled from Rome to Phoenix so time zones were shifted. Then, I over-scheduled social engagements. In other words, I let myself get run down and the result wasn’t good.

I lost my shimmer for a couple of days. :(

But I didn’t let it go long.

I said… HOLD THE PHONE! OH HELL NO! I took immediate action and got back into my routine, determined to get my shimmer back — pronto. I did the following routine (below), loaded my mind with positive self-talk, and cranked up the feel-good music!

(It worked — yay!)

Being rested, recharged, and well slept is important for manifesting, because it’s our thoughts AND feelings that make our dreams come true. We won’t think as positively or feel as uplifted if we’re tired or run down. Just not gonna happen when we’re drained.

On the contrary, with great sleep and great energy, we attract our miracles faster!

But, if the shine isn’t there, if you’re not emitting a shimmery high-frequency energy, then you’re just delaying all the good coming to you. A bad night’s sleep is one of the major factors that alter people’s mood and downgrade their happiness and zest for life.

Lack of sleep (or rest) will put out your fire, like a wet blanket. We don’t want that!

So, make sure you get good sleep.

Rest when your body asks you to because it’ll help you manifest your miracles faster. You should look at sleep as supporting everything you’re doing. It increases your health, helps you lose unwanted weight, and makes more magic in your life.

You see more opportunities because your eyes are wide open, not falling asleep!

I urge you to look at your sleeping habits and create a protocol that will help you optimize your sleep.

Tips to Get the Best Sleep of Your Life!

Here’s what I do!

1. Time to Bed — 2. Special Glasses — 3. Meditation

I have a routine for my evening because it means no surprises. It allows my night to flow easily.

That doesn’t mean that there aren’t hiccups when you travel or when something comes up… the main idea here is to have the routine that you normally follow.

The bottom line is it really just means getting to bed on time and allowing yourself 7 to 9 hours of sleep. Or more if necessary. For me, I set an alarm on my calendar to tell me to GO THE FUCK TO BED(!). :)

This also means that I don’t drink anything caffeinated past 1 PM otherwise I won’t be able to fall asleep peacefully.

This also means that I don’t schedule social activities late in the evening, if I can help it. There’s no doubt that this will disrupt my sleep, but sometimes it can’t be avoided, ya know? In these instances I get home from the event, wash my face, put on some sleep music and get straight to bed (usually without meditating because I’d rather just get to sleep).

Bad-Ass Blue-light Blocking Glasses

I also use blue-light blocking glasses in the evening before bed. I have two pair: one pair that is yellow and blocks 70% of the blue light, and I wear these in the evening as I’m making dinner and transitioning, for a few hours before bed.

The other pair are red and they completely block 100% of blue, green and violet light.

They’re super rad and I feel like a bad-ass wearing them. I use them when I’m in bed if I’m reading (on my Kindle) or using my phone. These dramatically increase the ability to have better sleep and to fall asleep easier, because you really relax wearing them and they help melatonin production.

I love these glasses and my daughter wears them, too. After a few days of wearing them, she, unsolicited, said she’s sleeping better because she’s not waking up in the middle of the night anymore.

The red glasses are from TrueDark and they have a coupon code for my readers. Use coupon KRISTEN at checkout for 10% off.

From their website…

When your head hits the pillow, you’ll fall asleep quickly and sleep more deeply. Twilight glasses are also great for managing time-zone shifts, such as when traveling. Another great use is for people (such as new moms) who get up in the middle of the night and need to get back to sleep quickly. For those who live in far northern climates where it’s light well into the night, Twilight glasses can provide “early darkness” for better summertime sleep.

TrueDark Website

Meditation

And, you all know I like to meditate in the evening, followed by some reading if there’s time (or vice versa). At night it’s usually my husband and I meditating together, and it’s such a nice way to wind down the evening. The meditations help me change my brain waves so I can get out of beta brainwaves to a more relaxed alpha or theta experience.

Extra Tips

Oura Sleep Tracking Ring: I recently also bought the Oura ring to track my sleep and see if there were improvements to be made. I love the ring and get excited each day looking at my sleep data. It tells me the amount of time I’m spending in the various sleep stages. So far I know I dream a lot — like more than the average and I wonder if it’s all of the learning I’m doing every day. It’s my brain processing it all. On the other side, although I have some nights with a good amount of deep sleep, I don’t get enough of it on other nights (maybe because so much of my time is being spent in REM). I’m currently working on ways to increase my deep sleep and the red glasses above are helping.

My Oura Ring

Sleep Music: I play music to inspire sleepiness while I’m reading in the evening in bed. It’s Sleep Therapy by Sonicaid and it’s nice to have in the background during the last hour of my day.

Look Up: Another little tip I learned to help you relax and sleep is looking up with your eyes closed. So, when you’re head is on your pillow and you’re trying to sleep, with your eyes closed, look up toward your eyebrows. It strains your eyes a bit and doesn’t feel awesome so I only ever manage to do it about 5 to 6 seconds at a time, but it works for me. Doing it repetitively a few times definitely makes me more tired.

Pro-tip: do this “look up” activity in the beginning of a meditation to enhance alpha brain waves, and help you get into a good meditative state sooner.

Eye Mask: I really should list this one up above as a priority because I don’t sleep without one. It not only blocks any light, ensuring I sleep until I’m ready to wake up, but it also is like a trigger. Once I put it on, my body knows it’s time to sleep. Here’s a popular one so I’ll have two around my house.

Why two? One is by my bed for sleep and the other is to use in my living room where I meditate. My meditations are much better wearing an eye mask to help block any distractions, even with eyes closed, the darkness provided by the mask is much better.

Sweet Dreams…

Duh(!)-Tips: Obviously, caffeine shouldn’t be consumed after 12-2pm depending on your bedtime and alcohol will trash your sleep, too. I also like to have my last meal finished at least three hours before my head hits the pillow.

In Conclusion

Between an evening meditation and wearing my glasses that’s pretty much all I do to ensure that I have a great sleep. Obviously the most important thing is just to make sure that you have enough time to get the right amount of sleep! And that, frankly, means getting to bed early enough.

Sleep makes us more beautiful and keeps our shimmer strong. Finding ways, like good sleep, to maintain our elevated emotions and uplifted energy will make you leagues better at manifesting — so get to it!

Sweet Dreams, Lovelies!

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Becoming a Happy Sexy Millionaire — Step 2: The “Law of Attraction” Meditations

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Step 1: Love Yourself (Recap)

First, I recently shared Step One of my three-part formula for becoming a Happy Sexy Millionaire.

Pro-Tip: If you haven’t yet read my post on unconditional self-love, do yourself a big favor and read that, and then resume here.

It’s all about the vital component of loving yourself in order for your dreams to come true. The reason I talk about loving yourself is because, when you love yourself, you feel worthy and whole. Everything in your life becomes waaaaaay easier. And I mean everything. Including these meditations I’m about to convince you to make a powerful part of your daily ritual.

When I went through my transformation, I actually didn’t have self-love in my toolkit like I do now. This means it took me longer than it will take you to get to where I am. If I’d had this amazing self-love affair when I first started, I’d probably be even further along my journey to being a Happy Sexy Millionaire.

Step 2: Do Your “Law of Attraction” Meditations

I’ll describe these meditations in a moment. They were responsible for making me fall madly in love with my life, and myself. I clearly remember the morning in Cordoba, Spain, when I was doing my daily meditation. Suddenly, a feeling of worthiness washed over me. In that moment, something shifted. I realized what had been missing. That’s why I now teach about self-love first. It makes everything easier, including the potentially painful reprogramming that we all go through when we transform.

Why These Meditations Are Uber Beneficial for You (But You Don’t Have to Do Them)

Let me say something up front: You don’t need to meditate in order to manifest your ideal life.

Whaaaat?

You do, however, need to apply the Law of Attraction to your life, and that’s the crux of Step 2 in my formula.

The easiest way I’ve found to do this (after loving myself) is with these meditations, because they create radically stronger vibrations and energy with me, which you’ll learn below is absolutely required to manifest happily and effectively. They also help me focus and visioneer* my dreams.

*Visioneering is the process of creating pictures in my mind of what I want. Vision (Envisioning) + Engineering (Designing) = Visioneering.

Today’s post is all about the specific meditations I’m doing, the how and the why.

The Happy Sexy Millionaire Matrix

By regularly meditating, I tap into my Happy Sexy Millionaire Matrix, which is where I raise my energy and create (and design) my future. This not only feels f*cking amazing, in the moment (and after!), but it also brings me closer to the destiny I create because meditating helps me in five fundamental ways.

These meditations help me by:

  1. Reprogramming my subconscious — essential for living an epic life.
  2. Attracting my Happy Sexy Millionaire life faster, because the meditations follow the principles of the Law of Attraction.
  3. Making me feel on top of the world. Who wouldn’t want that? That’s worth the price of admission.
  4. Keeping my life’s vision front and center, generating an undercurrent of excitement every day. I feel like Tom Cruise in Minority Report where he effortlessly moved ideas and things around. Meditating with these meditations gives me a powerful feeling of “I’m creating this, yeah I want more of that, less of that, let’s move this around, etc.”
  5. Creating health and longevity because meditation has been proved to facilitate this.

All of these benefits, because I meditate. Every. Single. Day.

When I first declared my plan to be a Happy Sexy Millionaire (the series: post 1, post 2, post 3, post 4, and post 5), I used Dr. Joe Dispenza’s meditations to reprogram my brain and set me on the right path to my sparkling Happy Sexy Millionaire manifestation.

Why Do I Love Dr. Joe’s Meditations?

If these meditations are so powerful, you can guess that I’m a raving fan of Dr. Joe Dispenza. First, his meditations are unique and fun to do. Yes, fun. Really. It’s like being in Candy Land or Fairy Time. But that’s not all. His meditations are powerful and massively effective at making you feel amazing, helping you focus, and helping you get clarity on your life’s desires.

I only recently realized that Dr. Joe’s meditations are, in part, significant because they’re based on the “Law of Attraction.” (Though I’ve never heard him call it that.)

How The Law of Attraction Works

The “Law of Attraction” has been written about since the 1870s, but it gained popularity, when Napolean Hill described it in 1937 in Think and Grow Rich, one of the best-selling books of all time.

At its most basic and easy-to-understand level, the Law of Attraction is simply the idea that we attract what we think and feel. It’s a powerful combo of thoughts and feelings, with the “feelings” part creating a “vibration” (a natural energy) that attracts things to you based on the feelings you have.

In other words, it’s not just what we think that’s important. It’s what we think and feel. And, in particular, that the two match. For instance, that you both think and feel positively about something you seek to attract.

For the most part, that’s what happens naturally. When we think good things, we feel good. When we think bad things, we tend to feel bad. But for some things, you may think you want something, but deep down not actually feel that you want it, or that you’re unworthy. This incongruence leads to self-sabotage or lack of follow-through.

However, when the two match, you are said to be “congruent,” and that’s when the universe starts to move mountains for you.

Your thinking creates the thought of what you want (or how you want your life to be), and your feeling is what puts out an energy that attracts or repels what you want. In other words, you want your exciting ideas for your future to be matched (or congruent/coherent) with the thoughts and feelings in your heart, as often as possible… in order to manifest everything.

Best of all, when you dream big, you tend to feel great because you’re imagining this amazing life and things you want. The bigger, the better! Perfect! However, when you’re not dreaming and feeling great, you might get distracted with negative thoughts and feelings based on what’s going on in your life. Once you abandon feeling good to deal with those negative things, progress toward your dream goes into slow motion. The key is feeling as great as you can, as often as you can. And that’s, uummm, awesome… because who wouldn’t want to feel great as much as possible!?

So, that’s the Law of Attraction: Think well + feel well = do well. Since the days of Napoleon Hill, people have been manifesting legendary lives using this simple guiding principle.

Dr. Joe Takes It to The Next Level.

He gets much more specific in the details. He also explains it more scientifically, which I liked because it boosted my confidence in the validity of the concept.

Once it dawned on me that Dr. Joe’s work is just a the Law of Attraction without calling it that by name, I got even more excited because I realized there are a lot of people writing, teaching, and using this powerful process. More testimonials, more proof.

It’s Your Choice

You have a choice for manifesting your dreams and how you use the Law of Attraction to do it. You could go through your life and not meditate, still using the principles of the Law of Attraction, and attract a great life. A lot of people do this. They think about things they want, and they feel the elevated and uplifted emotions necessary to attract those things.

I prefer taking it deeper though… really deep. I’m after other-worldy experiences. I love closing my eyes and feeling like I’m jacking into the matrix of my future. It feels waaaaaaaay intense, and powerful, and effective when I do it that way.

These Meditations Are Vital for My Happy Sexy Millionaire Life

Dr. Joe’s meditations give me that fully immersive, matrixy experience. I’ve tried a lot of people’s guided meditations, and they’re not the same. Therefore, these specific meditations from Dr. Joe are a critical component to my process. They were important at the beginning of my journey, and they continue to be important now. There is no graduation, no point when you don’t need to do them anymore. It’s a permanent, incredible, new lifestyle.

His Meditations Have Served 2 Purposes For Me.

First, when I initially started doing them, they were instrumental in helping me reprogram my subconscious at lightning speed.

My transformation was radically fast. In that state of meditating, when Dr. Joe guides you into different brain wave states, it’s easier to change your programming, becoming a different person. Otherwise, it’s a bit like walking with a weighted backpack and cloudy vision. It takes longer. Working on this stuff in a specific mental state is absolutely the way to go.

When I say “change your programming,” I mean that you become a new person with a new mindset and personality. You become one of those people who seem to sail through life, attracting success with relative ease, as though everything they do just seems to “click.” We’ve all met them… wouldn’t it be amazing to be that kind of person, as though you were born that way?

So if you’re not living the life you want, you probably have bad programming. This means perceiving a limited world from a place of fear, stress, anxiety, anger, hot-headedness, frustration, sadness, or scarcity. Or maybe you only occasionally experience these limiting emotions. Well, even “occasionally” is too often in my book. Remember, you and I are going for full-blown epic-ness!

That’s where these meditations are absolutely brilliant. They get your brain into theta wavelength, which makes it much easier to go in and yank those crappy-ass mental weeds from your mind. Then, you plant new healthy seeds with fertile soil in your brain.

Anita Moorjani describes fears as “thought viruses.” Well, I inoculate myself from thought viruses by loving myself and by meditating daily.

I’m Not Going to Sugar-Coat This.

It takes WORK to change the wiring in your brain. But it IS possible. And extremely rewarding, not just after it’s done (it’s never actually done), but during the process, which makes it fun and exciting while you’re doing the work.

But just to be crystal clear, it takes time, energy, and work. And, you’ll start to notice benefits almost immediately. Once you make the change, you’ll live each day feeling like you’re literally floating. Light, bright, and lively. Resilient. Epic.

The Power of Ritual

When you do these meditations regularly, the repetition and consistency means you’re also tapping into the power of ritual. This empowers you because it becomes a habit you created with intention, giving you a sense of control in your life.

Taking the time to meditate like this requires commitment, and committing to it not only offers the promise of feeling great and centered, but it also makes you feel like you’re in charge, because you are.

This repetition also means you’re now firing and wiring on a regular basis. Once you’re reprogrammed, you then start using the meditations to manifest faster. Think of it like this… when you put in the time, your brain improves, gets stronger, and you live better, just like exercise. You don’t expect to get a firmer butt from not doing anything, right? You exercise and work out.

Well, it’s the same for your brain. Meditation is the exercise that makes it way more powerful. Your ability to focus and stay on track improve. You also get better at creating, dreaming, inventing, learning, loving, processing, relaxing, and flowing.

Newbies Can Try One-Minute Meditation!

And, here’s the thing… newbies can start this whole process in just one minute. Truly. I’ll say it again. You can start with only one minute! If you’re not meditating yet, then add one minute to your calender to meditate every day this week. Then next week, you make it two minutes. The following week is three minutes per day.

During your one minute of meditation, you can sit in simple silence and watch your thoughts go by, like clouds. Or you can count how many times you breathe in that minute. Or, you can listen to some music (no lyrics) that is calming, and, again, just watch your thoughts. This will get you into the habit.

From there, we can work toward moving into longer meditations guided by Dr. Joe, which I’ll describe next. That said, if you’re ready for huge changes sooner than later and you’re still new to meditating, then by all means, jump in with both feet!

Dr. Joe’s Meditations Work!

Weird as the meditations seem at times, Dr. Joe knows what he’s doing. He has years of experience in creating these meditations, and he studies thousands of people in his workshops all over the world. He hooks the people up to EEGs to measure their brain waves to see how they respond to the different things he says, different tones of voice, and different music that plays in the background.

In this way, he’s able to continually fine-tune his meditations, offering improved versions over time that people have responded to the most and are proved to work. This gave me confidence at the beginning, but in short order, I was experiencing so much benefits first-hand, that I no longer needed data to feel that what I was doing was worth the time. The benefits were obvious and profound.

As I mentioned in a previous post, Dr. Joe’s meditations are cinematic. As a result, when doing his meditations, it’s especially easy to think and feel the way you need to in order to manifest your dreams. His guidance and the accompanying music — his “formula” — makes it easier to create coherence between your heart and brain. As I’ve stated earlier, this is required to manifest your dreams quickly. (And it’s absolutely critical if your dream includes healing from a disease.)

Magic Carpet Ride

There are tons of books out there about the Law of Attraction, and examples of people successfully attaining their goals by using this fundamental principle. However, it’s easier said than done, because it’s not always easy to create that necessary heart and mind coherence. Sure, it’s a simple formula — it’s just two things that you have to do — but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. And that is why I love Dr. Joe’s meditations in particular. He takes you on a magic carpet ride! It’s so much easier to attain heart and brain coherence this way, and like I said, it’s way more fun.

Think of it this way… Imagine you needed to get into a house and the door was locked. You could climb onto the roof and try going down the chimney. You could break the glass windows. You could break down the door. That all seems like a lot of effort. Well, these meditations are like giving you the key to getting in the house, with hardly any effort. Just insert the key, turn it, and you’re in.

Now that I’ve convinced you to meditate (I have… right?), let’s talk about how I find the time to do it and the different ways I do it in my life.

Finding the Time to Meditate — How Badly Do You Want Your Legendary Life?

I’ll say it again: Reprogramming your brain takes time and commitment. These meditations take a minimum of 25 minutes a day (that’s a quickie), and more often take about an hour. You either want your epic life or you don’t. Or, maybe you want it but you don’t mind taking 10 years. That’s cool with me — it’s your life. However, I’m on the fast-track to manifesting, and living my legendary life is way too amazing to stop what I’m doing.

Now, I’m not saying you must use Dr. Joe’s meditations. I just highly recommend them because they freaking work. I resonate with them. I love them. I feel really good from the moment I close my eyes and begin. In fact, I’ve never once meditated and thought, “Oh that was a waste of time.” Hell no. It’s the opposite. I always feel mega-accomplished and suited up in my bulletproof armor. I open my eyes and I’m totally ready to take on the day.

That said… I am sure there are many Law of Attraction meditations you could try from others. If Dr. Joe’s style isn’t your jam, then try others. Heck, you can even do this without anyone’s guidance, and just go through some steps on your own. Your goal in this case would be to achieve what’s called an “open-focus,” which gets you into an alpha brain wave pattern. Then, you sink into blackness, stillness, nothingness, a state associated with the much slower theta brain waves.

In this state, you jump on your magic carpet and go for a ride designing your dream life. The thoughts you think — the actual dream you’re designing to live… plus the uplifted feelings and emotions you experience while thinking those thoughts — will work the Law of Attraction manifestation magic.

Have You Got Time for This? Yes, You Do.

I gotta tell ya, once you start doing these magic carpet meditations, it’s not difficult finding the time to make it a regular habit. The awesome way you feel — the pure pleasure — is all the motivation you need. This is why I have no problem making the time. I can’t wait to get to it each day. Not to mention, doing these meditations brings me closer every day to my chosen destiny!

I know people have time for this, because of one simple reason: It’s important. It boils down to this… If we want to manifest our extraordinary lives, we must do it consciously. That means we’re willing to do what it takes. Most people aren’t and that’s OK. But, I promise you that, once you get the groove of loving yourself and install the habit of meditating, you’ll start to see the results and it becomes self-fulfilling.

So, some practical tips: Maybe you need to wake up earlier. Maybe you need to drop one of your “must watch” TV shows. Maybe you need to switch your long workout to the much faster (and super effective) High Intensity Interval Training and Super Slow Weight Training.

Maybe you need to use social media less. Did you know that the average person spends over two hours a day on social media?! To what benefit? I’m here to tell you, meditation is rainbow-sparkle imagination time, and it’s better than any Netflix show could ever be. Make the time. Do the work. Enjoy the benefits today and always.

It’s not like I don’t have other things I could be doing, or that I never wonder if I should skip a day here and there. But I don’t because I know better. That means I simply “make” the time, come hell or high water. There are mornings that my mind wants to get straight to writing or I feel like I have a lot to do. But I still do the meditations and, you know what? My writing is better because of it. Everything I do is better. Not to mention the long term benefits of health, happiness, and manifesting my dreams.

OK, so you know it’s important to meditate and you’re going to find time to do it. Next I’ll share my meditation routine and some of my favorites from Dr. Joe’s collection. I’m hopeful that these will give you some inspiration and ideas for how to design your day.

Changing My Sleep Schedule

First, as I’ve said, I meditate every day. I don’t care if I have 7am flight out of Rome… I freakin’ wake up at 3am to make it happen. I treasure my sleep though! (OMG it’s massively important, so important I bought an Oura ring to track it.) I share this because, well two reasons. 1) Sleep affects every part of your life from your mood to your health. So don’t skimp! (More on this in a future post.) 2) I don’t just decide to wake up early on the day of the flight, cutting into my sleep time. Nooo hoooo hooo.

I chart and schedule that shit a week out! I start to transition my sleep time 15 to 20 minutes earlier each night to facilitate getting up earlier, so, by the time my travel day arrives, I’m easily waking in time to meditate. No lost sleep, no grumpiness.

When I began my morning mediation practice, I took a look at my schedule and figured out what time I need to go to bed in order to get a full night’s sleep, and wake early enough to meditate before the rest of my day begins. I have a daily alarm set telling me when it’s time to get ready for bed. As a result, I almost never miss a full night’s sleep or my morning meditation.

The Different Meditations I Do

Four mornings a week, I do the Morning meditation (this is a “quickie,” i.e., less than 30 minutes). On some of these same mornings, I also add the Generating Abundance meditation, for a total of ~50 minutes.

The other three mornings of the week, I opt for a longer, single meditation. It runs 45 to 60 minutes, depending on the meditation. I typically opt for an Energy Center* meditation or a Walking** meditation.

*Note: Dr. Joe offers four different Energy Center meditations, and it’s highly recommended that you do them in order so you can understand and build as you progress. The first one is nice and easy as you learn to focus on the different energy centers of your body. The second one has an epic finale that sometimes makes me cry tears of joy as I fully embrace the magnitude of my amazing life. The third one is takes you deeper in being open, tuning in, and creating a new consciousness to heal and create. The fourth is a very trippy, interesting experience, which I expect is particularly beneficial for healing.

**Note: Dr. Joe offers two Walking meditations. I like the first one, but I LOVE the second one. I do them in whichever apartment we’re living in at the time, so I don’t do them outside. I’m a large-and-in-charge manifesting mofo when I do this second Walking meditation, because it’s amazing. What’s more, there’s a unique benefit for your brain when you walk because of the bilateral rhythmic movement. It engages your left and right hemispheres of the brain — in the same way that popular tapping therapies use alternate-side eye movement or ear sound stimulation. It’s theorized that, used correctly, the rhythmic bilateral activity of walking could greatly accelerate psychological healing.

In conclusion, I meditate every morning, and sometimes it’s less than 30 minutes and sometimes it’s an hour. Either way, I am beyond grateful when I finish. Every. Single. Time.

Night Time Meditations (with My Husband)

I also meditate almost every nights.

When I first started meditating years ago, pre-Dr. Joe days, I found it easiest to meditate at night. In the morning, I had too much on my monkey-mind to stay focused on my breath. In bed at night, I was more relaxed. I found it a fabulous way to wind down and prepare for sleep.

When I started doing Dr. Joe’s meditations every morning, I also continued my nighttime meditation routine, but I started doing it with my husband. It’s especially easy to find time at night when Game of Thrones is no longer competing for our time. :)

The Whole Is Greater Than the Sum of the Parts.

Doing this together has incredible benefits. First, it brings us closer as a couple sharing a habit and ritual. I like to say, those who meditate together stay together. :) Second, synergy. During these meditations, we’re both experiencing the same uplifted emotional states and this generates an amazing energy field around and between us. It’s like The Force, surrounding us and binding our universes together. By laying side-by-side, we share and expand the energy. The whole is greater than the sum of the parts.

We make a deliberate choice to meditate, instead of watching TV or doing something else together. It’s worth it. Like I said before, I’ve never finished a meditation and thought, “Gosh, that wasn’t worth it.” I can’t always say the same for TV. We’re going for greatness, as a team. We’ve got big plans for our life. I’m not going to sit around just consuming all the time. I’m opting to create our future instead.

Scheduling it on the calendar makes it more likely to happen. All day long, I see it on my schedule, creating that plan, mindset, and expectation that it’s going to happen. And so, it does.

Our Nighty-Night Meditation Process

So, what’s our process? I literally schedule it on my iPhone for every night. We toggle back and forth between either a quickie (Morning or Evening from this option) or one of the longer ones (there are many).

It’s always after dinner, and we plan it such that, by the time we’re done, I still have an hour of time to read if I want before hitting the hay. For Greg, after the meditation he goes off to have Daddy-Daughter time with Kamea.

Plugging Into the Matrix

We do the meditation lying down in bed. Dr. Joe doesn’t typically recommend lying down, but in the evening, I love it. I have only rarely dozed off, maybe once every two weeks or so. Despite this, I know I’m benefiting. Best of all, I get mega relaxed and this gets me into theta faster. Even cooler, when I’m plugged in and wearing my Beats headphones (we use a splitter so we can both wear headphones), and I’m snuggled under my blankets, I feel like I’m totally plugged into the matrix (or I’m a Cylon from Battlestar Galactica — in that milky space bathtub thing).

That, folks, is my meditation routine. I do the work and it shows.

In the next post, I’m going to share the third part of my Happy Sexy Millionaire Formula, which is all about what to do when you’re “off the couch.” That is, when you’re not meditating and or in front of a mirror.
Keeping this magic feeling alive all day long takes more than Self-Talk Mirror Magic and meditation.

There are tricks to doing this and it’s our goal because the the longer we maintain elevated thoughts and emotions, the faster we become Happy Sexy Millionaires. Turns out, it’s one of the biggest challenges people face when drawing their destiny to them, and I’ve cracked the code!

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My Daughter’s “Selfie-Talk” Mirror Magic

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Have you started loving yourself yet?

Are you listening to the way you speak to yourself — the actual words you use? Is your life sparkling more as a result? Each day, it gets more fun and interesting.

Self-Talk Mirror Magic shifted my life to all-new heights. As a woman who’s passionate about my daily habit of it, I like to use it all day. But, this requires having mirrors everywhere.

When I’m at the gym, no problem. When I’m in the bathroom, I’m all set. But that’s not enough times or places. Self-love requires multiple moments if you want it to take effect quicker. Remember, fire and wire that brain. The more we fire up our self-love self-talk, the faster our brain wires it, and it becomes our default.

Therefore, I also keep a mirror by my desk, inspired by Louise Hay having one at hers. Such a brilliant idea! This way, I can check in with myself any time I’m writing or about to take a phone call. If I want a little pick-me-up, I flip open that puppy and blow myself a kiss. I really do this.

The round purple flower thing to the left of my laptop is my desk mirror.

As I mentioned in my post about self-love, when we love ourselves, it’s the most effective way to teach our kids how to love themselves. We are the teachers. We are the role models. It’s silly to expect our children to behave a certain way if we’re not giving them examples to teach them.

My daughter also takes time for her own Self-Talk Mirror Magic every day.

At first, I introduced her to it by simply showing her what I was doing. My loving energy connected with her energy, and it inspired her. She loved seeing me so happy, and she wanted to do what mom was doing. Then, frankly, I put it on her daily to-do list as a reminder (parents can do that), and now it’s her habit, too. It all seemed weird and funny at first to her, but she quickly took to it and made it her own. Her attitude improved and her happiness increased. Her confidence, too!

Pocket Mirror

Well, as I’m also a Go-Big-Or-Go-Home kind of gal, I looked for more ways to put my face in front of a mirror. I decided I wanted one to carry around in my pocket so I could grab it anytime I’m out and about. However, I didn’t have a mirror small enough for my pocket.

But, guess who did? Kamea! So, I asked her if I could borrow it to keep it in my jacket pocket while running errands.

Then, one day, I was at the gym and I texted her to see if she’d done her daily Self-Talk Mirror Magic yet. She said she hadn’t but that she would.

When I returned home, I asked her how her it went. I like to hear what she’s saying to herself. Sometimes it’s about her big dreams and goals and sometimes it’s about having a great day. It’s always inspiring.

She was on the couch when I asked her, looking really comfortable, and she admitted that she was too lazy to go to the bathroom mirror at the moment I prompted her about it from the gym. And, because I had her compact mirror with me at the gym, she didn’t have that on hand.

So instead, she invented “Selfie-Talk.”

Instantly intrigued. “What is that?” I asked, though I immediately had an idea from the word “selfie.”

She shared that she used her iPad and turned on the camera in selfie-mode to do her Mirror Magic. Ha! I friggin’ love it. Taking Self-Talk and turning it into Selfie-Talk. :) Who needs a mirror in your pocket when you have your smart phone with you?

No excuses now, friends.

Remember to join me in #SelfLoveFebruary (read all about it here).

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